Class Act And Fun Facts! How Well Do We Really Know Our Mothers?

Class Act And Fun Facts!  How Well Do We Really Know Our Mothers?

My mom, Merle Mecham Jorgensen, was the oldest and only girl born to my Grandpa and Grandma Mecham.  Six boys would later follow after my mother!  In the beginning chapter of my mom’s history, she includes a few sentences written by her mom–it seems even then that she was developing the sweet, caring personality that she was known for throughout her life; always a class act, to be sure!

“The morning of May 16, 1924, dawned on this treasured infant and her thankful mother–bringing to the mother a gift of heavenly joy, a precious daughter.  The air of the first few weeks of life in Bear Lake, Bloomington, Idaho was perfumed with spring apple blossoms from the orchard.”  

Mom as a baby

My mother continues the introduction of her autobiography in a clever first person perspective, based on facts I’m sure my Grandma Mecham shared with her.

“Summer days flitted by full of interest for me.  And why not?  I had learned to smile and coo, to notice and play with bright, interesting objects in my ever-expanding world.  Everyone around me loved me and I proved the love was reciprocated by smiling and sleeping for them, as a good baby should.”  

A Special Assignment: Getting To Really Know My Mother!

vintage news reporter hat and cameraMy favorite elementary school teacher, Mrs. Larsen, gave my third grade class a brilliant, special assignment that forever changed my view of my mother! At first glance, you’d have thought that Mrs. Larsen should have retired long before she was my teacher in third grade.  All I know is that her love for her students and innovative approach to teaching the lesson subjects, always seemed to inspire me to work hard and love school even more than I did already at the time.

I recall that it was around this time of year, the first part of May, and our class had been studying great women in history for Social Studies.  (I doubt that it was mere coincidence that my teacher decided on this topic of study around Mother’s Day!)  When I walked into our classroom one Monday morning, I saw several felt hats stacked on a table by my teacher’s desk.  Thick ribbons were laid out by the hats along with slips of paper with the words “Press” written on them.  Later, when the ribbon was wrapped above the brim of the hat, we were then instructed as a class to place the press card securely between the fold of the ribbon and the hat.  Normally, I might have felt a little sheepish with the idea of wearing something that seemed so masculine, but Mrs. Larsen’s enthusiasm for our “special assignment” was infectious and we were giddy with excitement!  Mrs. Larsen then passed out official-looking clip boards with a few sheets of paper attached titled, “Fun Facts”!  It was then that I learned I was to become a rookie reporter and would be asking my mother a series of questions while pretending that I was meeting her for the first time and didn’t really know her.  Our class was further instructed that everyone’s answers would then be published in our third grade newsletter and presented to our mothers at a special “Press Release” luncheon.  The anticipation might have waned a little in our classroom when we realized it would be our mothers we’d be interviewing!  I have to admit that it crossed my mind to fill out the “Fun Facts” questionnaire on my own, since in all my astute candor at the age of nine or ten, I thought I was a pretty good expert on my mother!  However, knowing that she would be attending the luncheon, I fulfilled my assignment as a novice news reporter.  How grateful I am that I did the assignment, because I really did get to know my mother better!  It’s a dearly cherished experience to this day.

Vintage mother picture

Fun Facts About My Mother:

1.  Starting at a young age, my mother gave poem and story recitations at various social functions.  It started with a few short verses and grew to satirical humorous readings.  (One entitled, “I Have The Meanest Mother” was renowned in our community!)  Who knew my mother was a stand-up comedian of sorts!?  Here is an example of one of her first readings she gave when she was four years old:

“Beautiful hands are they that do, the work of the noble, kind and true!”

Also, “I’ll help you and you help me, and what a helping world this will be.”

(This last one, was actually quite familiar, as my mom quoted it often when some family members needed to be convinced that doing our chores was a worthwhile thing to do!) 

2.  My mom loved to practice the piano!  At age seven my grandma gave my mom piano lessons.  “Mother had me practice an hour each day.  Most of my little friends were playing outside, so it was quite a temptation for me to shirk my practicing and join them.”  My mom went on to further explain that her mother devised a way to keep her interested by creating a chart where she earned colored stars for the days and weeks she practiced; at the end of the month a gold star was given for uninterrupted practice time and a reward of her choice was earned!  “I liked to watch my chart grow and soon became so interested in my music that no device was necessary to keep me at my practice.”  My mom later became the pianist for her school orchestra!  (This is not a story I could relate to my children.  I was very creative at figuring out ways to get out of practicing the piano!)  

3.  My mother loved Halloween!  She recalled some of the fun costumes she created when she was young and how much fun it was to “traipse” through her neighborhood with a large group of friends and most of her brothers!  The real revelation for me was that the tradition for celebrating Halloween was carried on well into her adulthood!  When my mom was in college she belonged to a sorority, and at Halloween time the sorority girls invited friends who didn’t belong and together they designed costumes and scavenger hunts and invited dates.

“It was just as if ghosts had really been turned out on the street…after we returned home with our brains full of funny experiences that had been encountered that night, we all sat down to a delicious meal and shared our stories.” 

4.  My mom had a secret weakness for caramel popcorn!  It makes me chuckle to know that the queen of healthy eating, who usually served at least two or three vegetables at each meal, had a sweet tooth!  (Our family’s favorite Caramel/Cashew Popcorn recipe will follow shortly in an upcoming entry!)

5.  My mom was a business major in college and was chosen as the Valedictorian of her entire graduating class!  I’d heard a bit about this while growing up from my dad, since that is where he first saw my mom, but my mother never made a big deal about this honor.  In her history my mom wrote,

I was announced as the college Valedictorian during spring quarter of 1945.  I felt honored and worked hard to write and memorize my talk.  I had studied hard, but enjoyed the learning and maturing college life afforded me.”  

My mom also stated that her graduation was a time of great rejoicing for several reasons.

“World War II started during my first quarter of college in 1941.  The war in Europe ended on V-E Day (Victory in Europe), May 8, 1945, during my last quarter of college.” What I’m learning now is…

In really getting to know my mother, I relish the fact that everything seemed so lovely and enchanting during the early years of her youth!  Like most mothers, she was happy to assume the role of caretaker and loved her family deeply.  What I’m learning now is that we can learn a lot about ourselves as we take the time to really get to know our mothers!  Getting to really know our mothers, as well as other women we know, aside from their roles as wives and mothers, can also create strong bonds that are sure to enrich our lives!  My mother was always genuinely interested in others and learning about the fun facts that made them unique!

Surprise your mom and make some time for a little impromptu interview with her and learn some “Fun Facts” about her that you may not have known before now.  Write a few down on some special paper, (you can find some here to download at bottom of entry) along with your own special memories of your mom!  I’d love to hear about some of the fun things you learn, if you’d like to share them.

–Mary             

Happy Mother’s Day And Other Important Words!

Happy Mother’s Day And Other Important Words!

Hot Pink GeraniumGrowing up, Mother’s Day usually marked the beginning of a week of special events since my mother’s birthday was on May 16th.  Like most mothers, my mom didn’t need a lot of fuss and fan fare–she usually just liked having us work in the yard together, cleaning up the porch and patio to get them ready for all the fun family parties in the spring and summer weeks to come.  One of my mom’s favorite flowers was hot pink geraniums; she loved them scattered about with other beautiful flowers in her yard!  Even after I was married, one of the things I loved doing to help celebrate Mother’s Day and my mom’s birthday was to help her plant big, pink geraniums in her flower beds.  I enjoy planting a variety of geraniums in my yard now, as well as putting some in hanging pots, to remind me of all the good times spent with my mom this time of year!

I have been on vacation this week at a wonderful resort in Puerto Vallarta, called the Grand Velas!  It’s been a wonderful Mother’s Day week!

Grand Velas Resort in Puerto VallartaGrand Velas Resort in Puerto Vallarta

Amazing morning and evening views that leave you without words to describe the beauty of the Grand Velas in Puerto Vallarta!  

Important Words To Remember As We Celebrate Mother’s Day!

Since I just got back from vacation, and I’ll be telling more about my mom in a few days on her birthday, I thought I’d just share one really neat thing I learned while on vacation that I’m sure will resound in the hearts of all mothers out there!

My husband attended some work meetings a few hours a day during part of our time at the Grand Velas.  One guest speaker was Don Yeager, a former associate editor of Sports Illustrated.  Mr. Yeager recently wrote a wonderful book titled,  Greatness: The 16 Characteristics of True Champions!  I read this book while enjoying some relaxing time at the resort infinity pools and beautiful white sand beaches. (I know, rough week! Ha!)  There are so many inspiring stories and quotes in this book, but one statement really touched my heart and made me think of my cute mom and all her sage advice and how much fun we always had together!  I think you might hear your own mother’s voice in these words, since like mine, she probably offered up similar sentiments to you at some point during your life!

A Short Course in Human Relations

The six most important words:  I admit I made a mistake.

The five most important words:  You did a good job.

The four most important words:  What is your opinion?

The three most important words: If you please…

The two most important words:  Thank you!

The one most important word:  We… 

The least important word: I…

Happy Mother’s Day to all you amazing mothers keeping it real out there; I know that most days we all work hard to be better than we were the day before…and that’s enough!

–Mary

Dream Big…Then Work Hard To Make Your Dreams Come True!

Dream Big…Then Work Hard To Make Your Dreams Come True!

Dental SchoolHappy Graduation from the University at Buffalo Dental School, Jake!

Talk about dreaming big and working hard to make those dreams come true…Jake has done that and more!  As a family, we are proud of Jake and are in awe of the perseverance and tenacity he’s had to achieve his dream of doing well in school!  When I asked Jake to describe his dental school experience, he replied without hesitation that it was a roller coaster ride, extremely intense, but so interesting!  I’d say Jake is definitely well prepared for life in the “real” world and going after his piece of the “American Dream”!  I suppose it’s always an ongoing process to continue to dream big in our lives and then work hard to make our dreams come true!

A Grandfather’s Advice To Dream Big

My dad spent his professional career as an educator and felt strongly that getting a good education was key to making countless opportunities available to pursue our dreams.  He wrote the following statement in his history:

“In sorting out those things in my life I value most, I consider the fine education I have received to be one of my prized possessions.  This is not intended to compare my education with anyone else’s, but rather to consider what my life would have been without it.”

My children were always happy to have their grandfather show an interest in their school classes and activities.  My dad’s considerate encouragement and occasional rewards often seemed to have a bigger impact on my kids than most of my spirited “dream big” pep talks.

A favorite song of mine is “Dream Big” by Ryan Shupe and the Rubberband.  Here are a few verses to that song:

When you dream, dream big

As big as the ocean blue

‘Cause when you dream it might come true

So when you dream, dream big!

And when you laugh be sure to laugh out loud

‘Cause it will carry all your cares away

And when you see, see the beauty all around

And in yourself and it will help you feel okay.

And when you pray, pray for strength

To help you carry on

When troubles come your way.

And when you dream, dream big

As big as the ocean blue

‘Cause when you dream it might come true

So when you dream, dream big!

Some of Jake’s dreams were fulfilled when he participated in service projects like Operation Smile in Ecuador and Hope Alliance in Peru.  Most recently, Jake went to Tennessee with some dental student volunteers and helped give care to over a thousand patients in just three days.  Through Jake’s example, I’ve learned a more meaningful definition of how to truly be in the service of others!

Dental aide in Peru

The keynote speaker at Jake’s graduation, Dr. Kathleen O’Loughlin, Executive Director of the American Dental Association, encouraged the graduating class of students to “Do well by doing good!”

Dream Big And Keep A Good Sense Of Humor

Dental cartoonDespite long hours spent in class and studying for tests, as well as many clinical hours, I’ve been impressed that Jake has kept his sense of humor; I’ve always said that if anyone was able to make going to the dentist “fun”, Jake could do it…and without even having to administer laughing gas!

Dr. Michael Glick, the Dean of Dental Medicine at the University at Buffalo, made a powerful statement in his closing remarks at Jake’s graduation.  He said:

“In school you are given lessons and then you take tests.  In life you are given tests that help you learn lessons.  Learn to laugh at yourself and don’t take life too seriously.” 

What I’m learning now is…

As parents, we always hope that our examples will inspire amazing dreams and aspirations in our children’s lives.  However, what I’m learning now, more than ever before, is that I am also grateful for the influence of other mentors in my children’s lives; gifted teachers have the extraordinary ability to enhance the lives of their students by expanding the view of their future!

What advice would you give a graduating student today?  Do you remember any advice you were given that helped you “dream big” in your life?

–Mary