Thankful Giving!

Thankful Giving!

Love it or loathe it…..seeing a myriad of department store displays welcoming the Christmas season long before November even gets underway is all too common in the retail world!

Christmas store displays!

Like many of you, I look forward to Thanksgiving as a holiday to just “breathe, so to speak, and think about the many wonderful details of my life that I’m thankful for before the Christmas season gets underway…so perhaps, at the very least, the upside of being inundated with holiday overload this time of year, (and its making its appearance earlier every year) is that it makes us all try harder to find ways to really celebrate the season of thankfulness and giving!

 Thankful Giving!

A neat trend I have noticed lately in many social media circles and even in some retail marketing advertisements, has been the celebration of “Friends Giving” an adaptation of the Thanksgiving mindset that shows there’s some conscious effort being made to give some thoughtful observance to this special time of year!

In my desire to make Thanksgiving season more meaningful for me this year, I’ve decided to use this fun idea and do a little “Thankful Giving” of my own for many dear friends and loved ones!

Thankful Gift Ideas:

My mother was a huge advocate that gifts should be given with some thoughtful consideration and should be accompanied with a heartfelt note to the recipient, expressing gratitude for their influence in your life.  With this advice in my mind, here then are some gift ideas I’ve found that I thought would be good for thankful giving.

Craftberrybush "Thankful" pillow.

Even if you aren’t one to go all out with your holiday decorations, a festive pillow with a fun greeting sets the holiday mood and greets visitors with a warm welcome.  I love the watercolor print pillows by Craftberrybush sold by Society 6.  The pillows are beautifully made and reasonably priced, and very fitting for a Thankful Giving gift to a good friend or family member when accompanied by a note listing some of the reasons you’re thankful for their influence in your life!  

Ann Romney's memoir "We're In This Together!"

All political pandering aside, if you have a friend who has shown strength in the face of adversity or a loved one who has helped you get through some tough challenges, then Ann Romney’s new book “In This Together” is the perfect Thankful Giving gift. 

In her own words, Mrs. Romney says, “A lot of people talk about the transformation that throws you a curve ball, and the big one in my life was my Multiple Sclerosis diagnosis.  With all the blessings I have had, MS has been my greatest teacher.  It has taught me about faith, compassion, and serving others.  I’ve met many people along the way who’ve shared and demonstrated enormous resilience in the face of challenges; their stories gave me strength.  In sharing my story, I want to give others hope as I’ve been given hope on this journey.”

   How wonderful would it be to share with a friend or loved one the ways you’ve gleaned strength from them on the inside cover of this book–it will be a most cherished gift!  

Thankful Giving! (Plaid Scarves)

I love gifts that provide memorable experiences, so how fun would it be to give some pretty plaid scarves that are so popular now, (Target has some really great choices) for your Thankful Giving gift, with a fun note attached that tells the recipient that you want to plan a time to go on a morning or evening walk together, followed with getting a cup of hot chocolate afterwards.  More memorable than the scarf perhaps, will be the conversation shared–especially when you tell them how thankful you are for their friendship!  

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Obviously, it goes without saying that I always think some sort of Gratitude Journal makes for a great Thankful Giving gift, and I especially like this one by Studio Oh.  Share your grateful thoughts about the person you’re going to give it to on a page or two, then wrap it up with some colorful pens and a fun treat–and there you have it!  Wouldn’t you love receiving this?   

Thankful Giving! (Celebrating You Cards)

Do you remember receiving one of those folded chain letters that got passed around your classroom in grade school, that you then had to share with at least one other friend?  When I saw this darling box set of cards with their simple drawings and sayings, celebrating what is good and decent in all of us, the thought came to mind that I would take the first card and write a note on it to a friend, then tie up the rest of the cards with a ribbon and tell her to pass on some fond sentiments to another cherished loved one, and so on…an ongoing Thankful Giving chain of sorts–may it never end! 

(It’s sort of ironic that I bought these cards quite some time ago–long before the tragedy that befell Paris this last weekend…so they seem more poignant than ever before now, and serve as a bittersweet reminder of a lovely and simpler time, one that I pray can somehow be restored.  Perhaps concerted efforts of Thankful Giving from each of us is a good way to start!)   

Now for the good news–my Thankful Giving gift to a couple of you is that I’m giving away two of the Thankful pillows!!  All you have to do to enter is make a comment here about a Thanksgiving tradition you have or a neat Thankful Giving gift you have received.  You can also visit my Instagram account here, like the post and tag one other friend.  Like my “Lucky Day Giveaway” last March, my cute hubby will exert his most trusted efforts on your behalf and pick winners at random.  Good luck and please know that I’m so thankful for all my readers and any comments that are shared to help us all live and learn better!

(Giveaway is open until Wednesday evening November 18, 2015, 10 pm–MST.  Available for mailing in the U.S. only.)feelinggratitude

Feeling so grateful, thankful and blessed!

–Mary

Leather Chair Reading! A Life Changing Book!

Leather Chair Reading!  A Life Changing Book!

Although we have enjoyed an unusually warm fall season here in Utah where I live, the night air is starting to turn cooler, so it seems the perfect time, (before the busy holiday season) to come home after a busy day and wrap up in a warm afghan for a little while and read a chapter or two in a good book!

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“To change ones life: Start immediately.  do it flamboyantly.  No exceptions.”  William James

For this “Leather Chair Reading” journal post, the book I’m going to share with you literally changed the trajectory of my life and helped me and my husband redefine our true priorities at a crucial time for us when balancing work, family and time together seemed a little off kilter.  It is a book you’ll want to keep handy so you can refer to it often, because we all know it often takes constant reminders to help us keep what’s most important in our lives in good perspective!

Life’s Greatest Lessons: 20 Things That Matter! by Hal Urban

Leather Chair Reading! Life Changing Books!

“The author has put into wise, bite-sized pieces some of life’s most important truths.  Read, learn, enjoy!”   Obviously, I was intrigued after reading this quote on the inside cover of the book, Life’s Greatest Lessons: 20 things That Matter” while browsing through some bookshelves several years ago when my husband and I were on a “bookstore date” –one of our favorite kinds of dates, so how could I not buy it.

The author, Hal Urban, was a high school teacher for several years, and then a professor at the University of San Francisco, but more importantly, as far as I’m concerned, he raised three sons as a single father, and in this role realized pretty quickly that he had a limited amount of time to get his priorities figured out.

This book is the kind of book you’ll tend to want to devour in a single setting, since you can’t help but anticipate all the amazing changes that are sure to take place in your life when you finish the last chapter…but realistically, since this book requires some self-introspection, reading each chapter carefully, even taking time to make notes in the margins, rewards the reader with time to really ponder all the individual topics and know better how to implement the lessons learned into daily living.  As the wise literary scholar, Ralph Waldo Emerson, once said, “Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived in order to be understood.”

Mr. Urban states in the introduction of this book that he wrote it for four reasons:

Because they don’t teach how life works or what is essential in school.

Because most of us need help in discovering how good we can really be.

Because old fashioned truth never goes out of style–even with a new generation.

Because we are never too young or too old to learn life’s greatest lessons…and the time is always right.  

I love the common sense approach taken with each lesson so that people from all walks of life can ultimately empower themselves to live better lives.  For example, in Lesson 4, titled:  “Attitude Is A Choice–The Most Important One You’ll Ever Make!” the author shares a personal story of how he slowly put the pieces of his broken life back together after a painful divorce.  In so doing, he tried hard to live by the creed of World War II prison camp survivor, Victor Frankl, who believed that the ability to choose our attitude in any given circumstance should be valued as on of man’s most celebrated freedoms!  “We can’t adjust every situation to fit our lives perfectly, but we can adjust our attitudes to fit all situations.”

Lesson 6: “Being Thankful Is A Habit–The Best One You’ll Have!” talks about an experiment Mr. Urban did with his students throughout the years of his teaching career; he would simply ask his students to go for twenty-four hours without complaining.  I will admit, I couldn’t help but chuckle when I read that the first response from his students was usually to complain about the assignment, but this was only the first part of the assignment…he also asked his students to list things they were thankful for, then that list four times a day!  Mr. Urban then goes on to describe the significant changes in his student’s demeanor as they entered his classroom after the experiment.  “Thankfulness does wonder for the soul!  When we focus on what’s right instead of what’s wrong, life improves considerably!”

Good attitude quote.

Probably the lesson I related to the most was number 11: “There’s No Substitute For Hard Work!”  I was blessed to have parents that taught me that motivation is fantastic and goals are great, but nothing happens until hard work is added.  It’s the last lesson, number 20, that often stumps me the most: “Life Really Is Quite Simple, Don’t Insist On Complicating It!”   While we live in a complex world, it doesn’t mean we have to live complicated lives.  In the final chapter of his book, Mr. Urban intuitively states, “Living a more fulfilled life is often as simple as looking for the best…in the world, in others and in ourselves!  Doing this will unlock your mind to a treasure chest of life’s opportunities and possibilities!”    

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I will always treasure “Life’s Greatest Lessons: 20 Things That Matter!” as a reference guide on how to be more authentic so that I can live my very best life!  

I’d love to know about any great books you’ve read that have inspired you to live better. 

–Mary        

 

Healthy, Wealthy And Wise! Coping With Endometriosis!

The Healthy, Wealthy And Wise!  Coping With Endometriosis!

It is generally known that October is breast cancer and women’s health awareness month.  Having some key women’s health issues highlighted will hopefully serve as a good reminder for all of us to better care for ourselves and be more proactive when it comes to any unresolved health concerns.  We are worth it, you know!  A checklist to a more commont sense approach to women’s health can be found here.

For this month’s “Healthy, Wealthy And Wise”  blog post, I’d like to present some important information about the very prevalent, but often misunderstood disease of endometriosis.  The website, endochallenge.com  states that as many as one in ten women suffers from the painful effects of endometriosis.  During my child-bearing years, I endured endometriosis and my daughter-in-law has been coping with the symptoms of this devastating illness for several years now, so I’ve asked her to share her story here.

Healthy, Wealthy And Wide! Coping With Endometriosis!

“Endometriosis is not thought of as a big deal because it doesn’t kill like cancer, but for me, it’s the biggest life event I can remember.  It consumes my whole world.  Endometriosis is constantly shaping my present and my future.”   Padma Lakshimi, Celebrity Chef

Signs and Symptoms Of Endometriosis!

First of all, let’s tackle the tough task of defining exactly what endometriosis is, and the symptoms associated with this disease.

According to Endometriosis Foundation of America, endometriosis is when the growth of tissue that is usually found inside the uterus, grows outside the uterine cavity.  Endometriosis often occurs on the ovaries and outer surfaces of the uterus, but can also spread to the intestines and other internal organs.  When a woman’s hormone levels change during her period, the abnormal tissues often grow and break down leading to severe pain and eventual scar tissue formation.  The cause of endometriosis is not too well understood, but hereditary factors seem to play a role.  It’s also possible that the endometrial tissue travels to these areas during a normal menstrual cycle.

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Symptoms of endometriosis may include the following: 

• Severe pain and excessive bleeding during a menstrual cycle.

Painful urination or bowel movements are often experienced as the endometrial tissue  rubs against the intestines or other organs from implants on the back of the uterus.

• Fatigue and depression also becomes a big factor with this disease as a woman’s body often suffers unusual hormonal imbalances.  

Exercise and normal activity can be impeded by the severe pain of the abnormal tissues and scarring that causes binding of internal tissues and organs.  

Infertility is often the most devastating symptom of this disease, since the ovaries are very susceptible to the damage caused by the scar tissue that develops with this disease. 

There is no cure for endometriosis, but common treatments include the use of anti-inflammatory drugs and muscle relaxants to help control pain, including short-term use of narcotics during peak pain times, usually at the onset of a woman’s menstrual cycle.  Birth control pills and other hormone therapy help keep the endometriosis from getting worse.  Surgery via a minimally invasive laparoscopy procedure is a viable choice as well, to help remove endometrial growths and scar tissue.

Whitney’s Story!

My father loved to hear about other people’s life experiences, he always used to say, “Wise is the person who learns from another’s story and makes his own better!”   Here then is my daughter-in-law, Whitney’s story…I hope it will inspire you as you face your own unique life journey. 

First of all, I want to make it very clear that what I’m going to write in this post are my personal feelings and experiences after being diagnosed with endometriosis.

I was diagnosed with endometriosis about two years ago.  The doctors I saw didn’t really suspect I had endometriosis until I started seeing a fertility specialist, but it’s likely that I have had endometriosis for many years.  In the research I’ve done since my diagnosis, I feel that endometriosis is often misunderstood by the medical community and that women would benefit a great deal if more research was done about this disease.  There is no real clear explanation as to why endometriosis happens, and treatment is somewhat limited,  however, this is not necessarily due to lack of understanding about the disease, but more because of its nature.

My biggest complaint in the years leading up to my diagnosis was severe cramping during physical activity, such as going for a run.  This wasn’t the typical cramping you get when you have pushed yourself to your full capacity, but rather a dull cramping in the pelvic region that’s very similar to menstrual cramps that would start after only about a mile of running.  When I attempted to explain the symptoms I was having to the gynecologist I was seeing at the time, he acted like he really didn’t know what was going on.  In hind sight, I find it a bit strange that my doctor didn’t suspect endometriosis as being the culprit.  This is one example of why I believe that there may be many women who are suffering some of the symptoms of this disease that are not being recognized as such.

As already mentioned, I was diagnosed with endometriosis disease after I began seeing a fertility specialist, and a third failed in-vitro fertilization attempt ultimately led me make the decision to have laparoscopic surgery to help determine the exact condition of my reproduction organs.  During the surgery, it was found that I had stage three endometriosis–stage four, being the worst case scenario.

Even after repeated surgeries, the likelihood of endometriosis returning is usually guaranteed.  A laparoscopy procedure is considered a minor surgery, but it is still surgery–which involves anesthesia, a recovery period, and the possibility of bleeding afterward etc.  Other treatments involve hormone therapy that requires taking some form of birth control pill, but often these medications resulted in me being sick and somewhat emotionally unstable, which isn’t good for either you or your husband.  The option of having a hysterectomy at my age,, I believe needs no explanation, and comes with consequences that I’m not ready for now.

So here’s some advice I’d offer readers, do not rely solely on the information your doctor may be telling you.  If you suspect you have endometriosis and your gynecologist isn’t listening to you, seek another opinion.  Go see an infertility specialist if needs be, simply because he has more knowledge and expertise where this diagnosis is concerned.  The more informed you become and the sooner you confirm that you do indeed have endometriosis, there’s less likelihood that it will have such an inhibiting impact on your daily life…and taking control of your health is very empowering.  It would be helpful as well, to see a community of women brought together who are all coping with similar symptoms of this elusive disease, where you feel comfortable asking questions, discussing concerns and sharing information as the research and treatments are advanced.  Obviously, it goes without saying that being more aware goes a long way to improving quality of life!

You can read more about Jake and Whitney’s story and their decision to adopt here.

Coping With Endometriosis!

A fervent hope of anyone who is coping with a debilitating illness, or dealing with any other sort of personal struggle, is that these words will resound in the hearts of all of us who offer our support!

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Here’s to much health and happiness for all of us!

How do you take on a challenge or deal with a personal struggle?

–Mary