A Nice, Normal Family?!

A Nice, Normal Family?!

Amid all the lights and decorations, good food and gifts, I think it goes without saying, that perhaps one of the main reasons we look forward to this Christmas time of year is the anticipation of getting together with family and loved ones!

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Although they could be a bit hectic at times, I look back on past holiday seasons when I was growing up with fond memories.  That doesn’t mean there weren’t often reminders from my parents as I rough housed and teased that Santa was watching and checking who was naughty or nice!   Like my children are sure to recall, I remember with a bit of irony now, the determined look on my mother’s face whenever company came to visit that gave a wordless warning that I didn’t dare not heed; it’s a bit of sage advice that I’m certain has been shared over and over again in many family circles with equal parts sarcasm and sincerity!

A Nice, Normal Family!

“Remember, as far as anyone knows, we are a nice, normal family!”

Despite any idiosyncrasies and shortcomings, our families always seem to accept us the best for who we really are…but could we do better at doing more for those we love the most?  It would seem that there is no better time than during the season that celebrates life, love and families, to try and do a few things that bring us all closer together!  Here are some traditions I’ve done with my own family over the years, as well as some activities I have heard of others doing that help them keep their family bonds strong, not only at Christmas time, but all year long!

  • Gather around the dinner table!

There’s just nothing like a great meal and lively conversation around the dinner table that helps pull a family together more!

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With our busy schedules now days, gathering around the dinner table seems much less likely than when I was growing up, but I found that having my kids help decide on the menu, as well as taking turns with meal preparation, made the possibility of getting together for dinner a more realistic goal.  We loved having breakfast for dinner too.  (You’ll find the recipe for Ebleskivers, one of our favorite meals here.)    

  • Celebrate the season!

A “bah, hum bug” attitude just doesn’t cut it if you want to keep family ties strong!  While it may require some creative coordination and a little extra planning, there is nothing quite like getting together with our families to celebrate age-old traditions, as well as trying a few new activities to build close family relationships!

Norman Rockwell Christmas!

From all the beautiful holiday decorations and tree ornaments, to the delicious smells of familiar recipes baking in the kitchen, we all have those cherished sentiments for family Christmas traditions.  (I have shared a few of my favorite traditions here.)  However, I think you’ll all agree that it is those people in our lives who love us unconditionally that truly make Christmas such a wonderful time of year, especially that person for which we celebrate this most blessed season!

  • Unite in thoughtful giving and selfless service! 

It goes without saying that giving thoughtful gifts, including selfless acts of service, proves to unite families in special ways that are sure to strengthen family bonds like little else seems to do.

Thoughtful Giving at Christmas!

A client of my husband’s collaborates with a charitable organization at Christmas time so his family can truly focus on giving to others by helping build homes or schools in foreign countries for those in need.  My sisters-in-law started a neat Christmas party years ago where we give a homemade gift to the person whose name we draw that year.  The time and energy spent on creating a thoughtful gift for anybody can’t help but result in forming special bonds with that person!    

Family Christmas Traditions: Giving Manger Gift Set

A new way to focus on service this Christmas season that I’m giving to some family members and friends is “The Giving Manger”  gift set.  These unique sets come with an endearing story book that explains the tradition of giving and hopes to inspire selfless acts of service that results in pieces of straw being placed in the little wooden manger throughout the month of December, ending with baby Jesus being placed in the in the manger on Christmas morning.  

  • Mostly…have fun and enjoy being together!

There is just nothing better than the anticipation of family, friends and loved ones returning home for the holidays!

Welcoming Christmas!

There’s no doubt about it, despite the eclectic dynamics, funny antics, and yes, even drama on occasion, it really is nice to have the people in our lives that make up our families–with no one else are we casually able to be ourselves!  (My mom would also add that being related doesn’t excuse us from not making an effort to put forth our best manners!) 

A Norman Rockwell Christmas!

For me, a quote from a favorite movie, Dan In Real Life, just might sum it up best…“There’s a certain rightness in our wrongness!”

I hope everyone has the best Christmas season and that you are lucky enough to be able to spend much of it with your family and loved ones!

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I won’t have a couple of my kids here for Christmas, but that doesn’t mean we still won’t enjoy great conversations and all the crazy, good things we love about each other!

What fun family traditions do you look forward to celebrating every year?  

–Mary

Healthy, Wealthy and Wise! Managing Juvenile Diabetes!

Healthy, Wealthy And Wise!  Managing Juvenile Diabetes!

The month of November marks the 75th anniversary of the American Diabetic Association, a group of dedicated leaders who are striving to help increase the medical research and resource options for those living with diabetes, as well as those who are looking to live a healthier lifestyle.  And while the Association’s main focus is to improve the lives of all people impacted by this disease, type 1 diabetes, best known as juvenile diabetes, has become a critical priority of the organization!

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Becoming more informed on living healthy, not only serves us better in each of our own lives, it helps us teach our children good habits too.  The “Healthy, Wealthy and Wise” journal entry this month, gives attention to a type of diabetes that can turn a family’s life upside down when one of their children is given this diagnosis.

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A simple definition of diabetes is that the pancreas (located just behind the stomach) loses its primary function of producing insulin, which is necessary for the body to metabolize sugar properly. 

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Most children will likely experience many of the same symptoms as their adult counterparts when diabetes is suspected, however, their diagnosis isn’t necessarily dependent on diet, weight or genetics.

While the treatment for type 1 diabetes has come a long way since the days of my youth, where my only memory of the disease was of a good friend who had it and couldn’t have the sweets and candy that most of us enjoyed everyday and had to endure daily blood tests and injections.  That’s not to say that it isn’t a struggle to find a good balance in the lives of young children who are given a diagnosis of juvenile diabetes!  Just recently, a good friend of mine found out the life changes that are required of all family members to help manage the effects of this disease when her son was diagnosed with diabetes.  Here is her endearing story!

Managing Juvenile Diabetes!

Nicholas’ mom, Catherine, adds that unlike some other childhood illnesses, diabetes is a lifelong diagnosis that will follow him where ever he goes, no matter what he’s doing.  As a family they have to be diligent about balancing what he eats in conjunction with his activity level.  But by doing this, Nick will be able to live a relatively normal lifestyle full of all the activities a boy his age loves! 

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Catherine also notes that while she is constantly learning about diabetes, it can get overwhelming at times, so she is very grateful for help from a supportive network of  family and friends.  She hopes that in Nick’s lifetime he will be lucky enough see a cure for this disease!  Until then, “Team BioNIC-K” is going strong!

Managing Juvenile Diabetes!

As a nurse, I often see superheroes reside in the brave hearts of small children fighting big battles!  

You’ll find more information on juvenile diabetes by checking the Type 1 American Diabetic Association website here.

What has your experience been with someone who has diabetes?  If you have a child with juvenile diabetes, what are some of the things you do as a family to help with the treatment of this disease?  

–Mary

Healthy, Wealthy And Wise! Coping With Endometriosis!

The Healthy, Wealthy And Wise!  Coping With Endometriosis!

It is generally known that October is breast cancer and women’s health awareness month.  Having some key women’s health issues highlighted will hopefully serve as a good reminder for all of us to better care for ourselves and be more proactive when it comes to any unresolved health concerns.  We are worth it, you know!  A checklist to a more commont sense approach to women’s health can be found here.

For this month’s “Healthy, Wealthy And Wise”  blog post, I’d like to present some important information about the very prevalent, but often misunderstood disease of endometriosis.  The website, endochallenge.com  states that as many as one in ten women suffers from the painful effects of endometriosis.  During my child-bearing years, I endured endometriosis and my daughter-in-law has been coping with the symptoms of this devastating illness for several years now, so I’ve asked her to share her story here.

Healthy, Wealthy And Wide! Coping With Endometriosis!

“Endometriosis is not thought of as a big deal because it doesn’t kill like cancer, but for me, it’s the biggest life event I can remember.  It consumes my whole world.  Endometriosis is constantly shaping my present and my future.”   Padma Lakshimi, Celebrity Chef

Signs and Symptoms Of Endometriosis!

First of all, let’s tackle the tough task of defining exactly what endometriosis is, and the symptoms associated with this disease.

According to Endometriosis Foundation of America, endometriosis is when the growth of tissue that is usually found inside the uterus, grows outside the uterine cavity.  Endometriosis often occurs on the ovaries and outer surfaces of the uterus, but can also spread to the intestines and other internal organs.  When a woman’s hormone levels change during her period, the abnormal tissues often grow and break down leading to severe pain and eventual scar tissue formation.  The cause of endometriosis is not too well understood, but hereditary factors seem to play a role.  It’s also possible that the endometrial tissue travels to these areas during a normal menstrual cycle.

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Symptoms of endometriosis may include the following: 

• Severe pain and excessive bleeding during a menstrual cycle.

Painful urination or bowel movements are often experienced as the endometrial tissue  rubs against the intestines or other organs from implants on the back of the uterus.

• Fatigue and depression also becomes a big factor with this disease as a woman’s body often suffers unusual hormonal imbalances.  

Exercise and normal activity can be impeded by the severe pain of the abnormal tissues and scarring that causes binding of internal tissues and organs.  

Infertility is often the most devastating symptom of this disease, since the ovaries are very susceptible to the damage caused by the scar tissue that develops with this disease. 

There is no cure for endometriosis, but common treatments include the use of anti-inflammatory drugs and muscle relaxants to help control pain, including short-term use of narcotics during peak pain times, usually at the onset of a woman’s menstrual cycle.  Birth control pills and other hormone therapy help keep the endometriosis from getting worse.  Surgery via a minimally invasive laparoscopy procedure is a viable choice as well, to help remove endometrial growths and scar tissue.

Whitney’s Story!

My father loved to hear about other people’s life experiences, he always used to say, “Wise is the person who learns from another’s story and makes his own better!”   Here then is my daughter-in-law, Whitney’s story…I hope it will inspire you as you face your own unique life journey. 

First of all, I want to make it very clear that what I’m going to write in this post are my personal feelings and experiences after being diagnosed with endometriosis.

I was diagnosed with endometriosis about two years ago.  The doctors I saw didn’t really suspect I had endometriosis until I started seeing a fertility specialist, but it’s likely that I have had endometriosis for many years.  In the research I’ve done since my diagnosis, I feel that endometriosis is often misunderstood by the medical community and that women would benefit a great deal if more research was done about this disease.  There is no real clear explanation as to why endometriosis happens, and treatment is somewhat limited,  however, this is not necessarily due to lack of understanding about the disease, but more because of its nature.

My biggest complaint in the years leading up to my diagnosis was severe cramping during physical activity, such as going for a run.  This wasn’t the typical cramping you get when you have pushed yourself to your full capacity, but rather a dull cramping in the pelvic region that’s very similar to menstrual cramps that would start after only about a mile of running.  When I attempted to explain the symptoms I was having to the gynecologist I was seeing at the time, he acted like he really didn’t know what was going on.  In hind sight, I find it a bit strange that my doctor didn’t suspect endometriosis as being the culprit.  This is one example of why I believe that there may be many women who are suffering some of the symptoms of this disease that are not being recognized as such.

As already mentioned, I was diagnosed with endometriosis disease after I began seeing a fertility specialist, and a third failed in-vitro fertilization attempt ultimately led me make the decision to have laparoscopic surgery to help determine the exact condition of my reproduction organs.  During the surgery, it was found that I had stage three endometriosis–stage four, being the worst case scenario.

Even after repeated surgeries, the likelihood of endometriosis returning is usually guaranteed.  A laparoscopy procedure is considered a minor surgery, but it is still surgery–which involves anesthesia, a recovery period, and the possibility of bleeding afterward etc.  Other treatments involve hormone therapy that requires taking some form of birth control pill, but often these medications resulted in me being sick and somewhat emotionally unstable, which isn’t good for either you or your husband.  The option of having a hysterectomy at my age,, I believe needs no explanation, and comes with consequences that I’m not ready for now.

So here’s some advice I’d offer readers, do not rely solely on the information your doctor may be telling you.  If you suspect you have endometriosis and your gynecologist isn’t listening to you, seek another opinion.  Go see an infertility specialist if needs be, simply because he has more knowledge and expertise where this diagnosis is concerned.  The more informed you become and the sooner you confirm that you do indeed have endometriosis, there’s less likelihood that it will have such an inhibiting impact on your daily life…and taking control of your health is very empowering.  It would be helpful as well, to see a community of women brought together who are all coping with similar symptoms of this elusive disease, where you feel comfortable asking questions, discussing concerns and sharing information as the research and treatments are advanced.  Obviously, it goes without saying that being more aware goes a long way to improving quality of life!

You can read more about Jake and Whitney’s story and their decision to adopt here.

Coping With Endometriosis!

A fervent hope of anyone who is coping with a debilitating illness, or dealing with any other sort of personal struggle, is that these words will resound in the hearts of all of us who offer our support!

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Here’s to much health and happiness for all of us!

How do you take on a challenge or deal with a personal struggle?

–Mary